Self-Love and Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is often associated with romantic gestures, heart-shaped chocolates, and declarations of love for others. It can also be a very lonely day for those of us who are not feeling loved or lovable. On this day, it is crucial not to forget the most important person in our lives—ourselves and remembering that feeling truly loved often starts from within.
This Valentine’s Day, let’s shift the focus inward and celebrate the beautiful journey of self-love.
What is Self-Love?
Self-love is not about arrogance or selfishness. It’s about recognizing and appreciating our worth. In a world that constantly emphasizes external validation, taking a moment to acknowledge our strengths, flaws, and unique qualities becomes a revolutionary act of self-compassion.
On this day dedicated to love, consider indulging in acts of kindness towards yourself. Take some time to engage in activities that bring joy and contentment. Work at fostering a deeper connection with the person you spend every moment with—you.
Here is an activity that can help to do just that. It will help you connect and find empathy for a past version of yourself to find empathy for the person you are today…and then the person you are becoming.
A Love Letter to ME Self-Love Activity
It is often difficult for many of us to find empathy for ourselves. It is often easier to find compassion for a past version of ourselves, especially during a time of struggle. This activity is meant to help you connect and find empathy for a past version of yourself to find compassion for the person you are today…and the person you are becoming tomorrow.
Supplies:
- Paper
- Pen or pencil
Part One
Take out a piece of paper. Remember a time that you were struggling. You may have been dealing with a difficulty in life or just struggling to get through your days. Take a few minutes to think about the circumstances of the struggle. How did you feel about yourself? Remember the feelings and where they lived inside your body. Think of how you overcame the struggle and recognize the strengths you have that helped you overcome. Jot down what comes to mind.
Now, using your notes, write a letter to that version of yourself. Tell them what you remember of your struggle and what you remember of your strength. Tell them whatever you need to hear back then. Be what you needed. Let compassion and care come through onto the page.
Part Two
Re-read your letter. Think about who you are today. What are the similarities? In what ways are you different? What would that past struggle have been like if you could provide this kind of compassion back then? What are you struggling with right now? Are you able to find compassion for yourself today? What might it be like if you could love yourself regardless of your perceived faults? Jot down some of your thoughts.
Now, using your notes, write a letter to your future self. Tell them what you just learned about you. What do you need when you’re struggling? Tell them how they can make you feel more loved. Remind them of their strengths and all the beautiful things they are.
Keep this letter. Put it somewhere safe, like a clothes drawer or nightstand. When the future you is struggling and in need of a little love, pull out your love letter to yourself and be reminded of the love you deserve, not only from the outside but also from within.
Loving Yourself Is a Journey
Remember that self-love is a continuous journey, not a destination. It involves accepting imperfections, embracing personal growth, and nurturing a positive relationship with oneself. Just as we invest time and effort in our relationships with others, we must dedicate energy to cultivate a loving and supportive connection with ourselves.
This Valentine’s Day, let self-love be the guiding force for every part of your life. Finding love and compassion for oneself is often the most challenging form of love. In the midst of the flowers and sweet sentiments, make sure to plant seeds of self-worth that will blossom into a garden of resilience, confidence, and genuine happiness. After all, the most enduring love story is the one you have with yourself.
